Vivienne Wears Many Masks

 


Happy Thursday! I meant to post yesterday and the day escaped from me. Sometimes that happens, but I'm back! Today I wanted to talk a bit about what self-care isn't. Proper self-care is taking care of yourself, mentally and physically. The opposite of that is staying inside all day, not showering, forgetting to eat, not drinking enough water, not sleeping enough or sleeping too much. Sometimes it's avoiding your friends and isolating yourself, or eating too much.

Another big thing that's important to not do when you're trying to take care of yourself is to be authentic. It's really easy when you're depressed to pretend you're okay, to pretend nothing's wrong. It's hard to be genuine. When you're vulnerable with people, sometimes they don't return that vulnerability, sometimes you get hurt instead. But when you're vulnerable with people who truly care, you'll find that you receive kindness, love, and validation instead of blame, scorn, and being treated as a joke or a lie. It's really freaking hard. But it's worth it.

Masking your feelings and pretending you're ok does make sense, though. It's a way to protect yourself from those who aren't going to hurt you when you're real. But it comes at a cost. The more you bottle up, the bigger it's going to blow up eventually. 

People also mask their feelings because of the stigma. People want to pretend that mental illnesses dont exist because then, they might have to care about it. It's uncomfortable. So it's easier to not think about it. Obviously, we need to start talking about this more to change that, which is what I'm doing. <3

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Just a reminder, I'm doing a giveaway with Joanna from Lilla Rose, and we're giving away a My Story flexi as part of Mental Health Awareness month, as well as a charm to go with it and some Lilla Bucks! Giveaway details are below with all the links you need. ^_^ And don't forget!!! When you buy a My Story Flexi of your own, let me know! I'm going to be donating $5 to my favorite charity for each flexi bought, so let me know how much to spend. <3

Giveaway ends May 29th at midnight. Winner will be chosen May 30th, and there are three ways to enter. 
First, you'll get 1 entry if you Like Joanna's Facebook page, and 1 if you like my Facebook page. Also, 1 entry for each Share and Comment on social media posts about the giveaway.
Second, you can get 5 entries if you buy a My Story Flexi from her website.
Third, you can get 10 entries if you donate any dollar amount to one of these charities: Mental Health America (MHA) or National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI).

Do any of these and let us know by commenting either here on this blog or our social media posts. ^_^ (All donations to NAMI will be matched thru May 31st, up to $75k) 


Joanna, Lilla Rose:

Facebook: www.facebook.com/UpInHair

Contact Her Directly: https://shop.ami.co/upinhair/contact?ref=share


Vivienne's Facebook:

Vivienne Aulaire, Writer | Facebook


Charities: 

Mental Health America https://mhanational.org/

National Alliance on Mental Illness https://www.nami.org/home

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