The Little Things


Sometimes life gets overwhelming, and for those of us who are neurodivergent and who have mental illnesses, it can happen all the time. Since I've been taking meds, I've noticed that while it takes more to overwhelm me, it definitely still happens. I feel like I've been able to recover from being overwhelmed quicker than before, but guess what? It still sucks. It still feels like you're drowning in to-do lists and lists of chores and things you haven't done yet that you really need to do, and oh no. What if I just escape into a book instead?

But I have noticed that there's something to counteract the overwhelming stuff. Take a mental step back and notice the little things that make you smile, like seeing your friend show up at your favorite coffee shop randomly, seeing your favorite barista who knows you by name, noticing the cute little flowers growing in the most unexpected spot, taking a look at the art on your walls and remembering why they make you so happy. There are any number of little things that make you smile, and they can be different for each of us, but Do pay attention to them. Then, when the overwhelming is still set aside, tackle your list and look at what can get done first, and ignore the rest. Ignore it! Once the task is done, then move on to the next.

Granted, this isn't something that's super easy for those of us with mental illnesses like anxiety and ADHD, but with practice it might help. Also, I'm not an expert, I'm just sharing the advice that I've received that works for me. <3 

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  1. NancyJune 8, 2021 at 5:04 PM

    Thanks, Vivienne. You posts are inspiring! And real. Appreciate you.

    Nancy

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  2. Vivienne AulaireJune 9, 2021 at 2:46 PM

    Aww you're so sweet, thanks for reading! ^_^ <3

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